January 19th

Saturday, January 19th, 2019

I said I’d knock off the phone images, but this is how today ended up – whoops!

Paul and I tore apart our office today –  reorganizing, cleaning, shredding old documents. We had a dinner date planned with my cousin Clayton and his wife Amy, and before we knew it we were rushing trying to get ourselves out together and out the door.

As I was drying my hair and getting my makeup applied, the sun was setting outside and was lighting up our bathroom curtains. The soft evening light relaxed me in the midst of my hurry.

I took a moment to enjoy the light, and I glanced at the frames on the shelf over our tub. A wedding gift from Paul’s sister, Abbey, each is a respective word map using a list of words Paul and I had given her to describe one another. We have it on display because disagreements and hurt feelings are inevitable in any relationship.

On some of our hardest days, it’s been a wonderful reminder to the two of us why we love each other, what we admire in one another. A positive reminder of who we each are at our core. So regardless of any other feelings we may be harboring against the other, those words are ones of truth and perspective.

I can’t speak for Paul, but I know it softens me when I need it most. Not only is it great for me to study Paul’s map but to study mine as well. Reading the words Paul said about me is sometimes balm to hurt feelings all on their own.

Sometimes I simply stand in our bathroom and look at them with a heart full of thanksgiving. I’m proud of the marriage we’ve built, and thankful for the love we share. There’s nothing like knowing you are exactly where you belong.

I had actually been looking at them earlier last week and I mentioned to Paul that we should do them again, now that we’re coming up on our five year anniversary. So maybe we’ll take them down for a couple months so we can create fresh lists and then see which words overlap, and which are new.

Also – if you’re reading this and want to do this, reach out to me! I’d be happy to facilitate lists for your and your spouse and create word maps for you!

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